This post is a guest piece written by my husband of three years. Normally this blog is a space for us millennial girls to share tips and tricks about parenting, beauty and everything in between but I thought having a little male energy could switch things up for the month of February. Enjoy!
With Valentine’s Day peaking right around the corner, fellas, let’s talk about some do’s and don’t’s for the big day. For any guy, be you single, married and especially in a situation-ship, Valentine’s day can come with some serious pressure. As men we want to impress, and woo but most importantly we don’t want to screw things up! The last thing you want to do is end up in the dog house on world love day. I’m not an expert on women, (if I said I was I’d end up in the doghouse myself, love day or not) but as a happily married man who has never dated any woman worth mentioning before my wife (see what I did there?), I can for sure give a list of the do’s and dont’ts that will keep you safe and in the clear.
So Let’s get started…
What Men Should Do on Valentines day
DO Plan ahead of time, talk to your lady to get a heads up for what she wants to do. This will also allow you to set expectations for what you are capable of doing. Maybe you can’t do everything she wants but you may be able to come through on a few things
DO think about yourself. I know it’s her day or whatever, but you’ll ruin her day if you don’t enjoy yourself as well. Don’t be the reason she isn’t enjoying herself.
DO get a gift, try to keep it simple. The last thing you want to do is spend a lot of money on a gift that she will hate or not love. Talk to your girl, or someone who knows her will, to get a gist of what she may or may not want as a gift. Get her favorite candy if she doesn’t want a gift. Whatever you do, don’t show up empty handed.
Don’t do these things on Valentines Day
DON’T be cheap or cheat your girl on the gift, no knockoff brands, or cheap costume jewelry. You may be tempted but, fellas, it won’t go over well.
DON’T just plan something extravagant without her input, as it may not go as well as you planned. (Unless you’re rich, y’all get to do whatever y’all wanna do anyway) This is save you both from being disappointed and you a lot of money.
DON’T plan a group date. It might sound like fun, and women generally love group dates but Valentine’s day is not the time for that. There are just so many ways for it to go wrong. You don’t want to end up passive aggressively competing with another couple, and end up arguing because you were out done. Or on the flipside, end up winning but now you’re on an awkward date with a couple who is clearly going to fight on the ride home.
Lastly, I know women are reading this, I would like to politely ask y’all to leave. I’ll give you a minute…they gone? Alright, I think they’re all gone. Listen up! Guys, fellas, brothers DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT, propose to your ole lady on Valentines Day. You’ll be doing, yourself, your lady and ALL THE MEN in the congregation a HUGE favor. If you’re thinking of proposing to your lady pick a different day. Think of her, you wouldn’t want to make her share such an intimate day with all the girls whose guys didn’t get to read this PSA? I’m sure you don’t, do everyone a favor a just pick a different day.
I hope these tips help you out! V-Day is all about showing love and appreciation so if you do that, you should be good. Share this list and keep it handy so you don’t screw things up this year!
– He’s Wright
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